Will I Go to Hell If I Like Girls? Life Feels Empty, Handling Friend Drama + 5th Wheel Feels

Okay, let me ask you… have you ever been sitting there scrolling, maybe hiding under your blanket, thinking, ‘Wait… am I the only one asking the totally weird, totally messy, totally heart-full questions no one else will admit?’ You know the ones. The ‘Oh my gosh, if God hears this I’m doomed’ type. 

Am I right?

Imagine this: you’re at school, at home, or in your room, and these thoughts just… pop. 

Questions like:

‘Will I go to hell because I like girls?’

‘Will I go to hell because my brain won’t stop thinking about… stuff?’

‘Will I go to hell because I lie, a lot… like, seriously a lot?’

‘Will I go to hell because I low-key judge everyone in my head?’

And then, BOOM — fear hits. Like, is this it? Am I already on the naughty list?

Real talk: you are NOT alone. Not even close. And today, in the VERY FIRST bonus episode of Season 3, we’re going to tackle four of your actual questions — the ones that keep you up at night — and I’m going to show you what the Bible actually says about them, no judgment, no labels, just truth… and a little sparkle, because girl, we are having fun with this.

So grab your tea, grab your chocolate, and let’s spill some real-life, Scripture-backed tea together. You ready? Let’s stinking go, sis!

Now, before we spill all the tea, let’s get one thing straight: I’m not God. I can’t see your heart, I don’t know your story like He does, and I can’t hand out eternal tickets. Only God knows that. (1 Samuel 16:7, remember?)

My job? My whole vibe today? To walk with you through these questions, point you to what Scripture actually says, and remind you that none of your questions are too messy, too big, or too weird for God. Got it? Cool. Let’s roll.

Question NUMBER ONE!!

Will I go to hell because I like girls?

Alright, let’s tackle this one first. This question came in anonymously, but girl, you are brave for asking it. First off, pause right here: just having feelings or crushes doesn’t make you a bad person. Feelings aren’t actions, and actions aren’t destiny. Got it? Good.

Here’s what the Bible says:

1. God sees the heart, not the label — 1 Samuel 16:7: ‘The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.’ Translation? God is obsessed with your heart, your honesty, your real, messy self — not just your crush list.

   
   

2. Scripture is clear about sexual stuff — Romans 1:26–27 and 1 Corinthians 6:9–10 talk about sexual activity between two people of the same sex being outside God’s plan. But here’s the thing: these verses don’t say you’re suddenly unloveable or that God’s done with you if your feelings are confusing. Nope. Grace is still in the room.

   
   

3. Grace is enough, like, full-on enough — 2 Corinthians 12:9: ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Girl, even when your heart feels messy, confusing, or strong feelings hit, God’s got this. He meets you right there — in the crush, in the questions, in the confusion.

   
   

4. Repentance is turning your heart, not freaking out — 1 John 1:9: ‘If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.’ Repentance isn’t shame. It’s you saying, ‘God, help me live the way You designed.’ And guess what? He forgives. He restores. He walks with you through it.

   
   

5. Jesus is obsessed with the messy parts — Luke 19:10: ‘For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.’ Feeling confused? That’s not scary to Him. Feeling messy? That’s fine. He’s not running. He’s already waiting for you to bring the whole heart.

   
   

So here’s the tea, sis: liking someone doesn’t define your forever story. Your heart does. Your honesty does. Your willingness to walk with God, even through the messy feelings? That’s what matters. Pause a sec… you feel me? You can have feelings, wrestle with questions, and still be fully loved by the Creator of the universe. That’s grace, girl — all over you.”

QUESTION 2 — Is there more to life?

Okay, picture this: you’re a kid, right? Birthday morning, all the presents are unwrapped, the bows are gone, the paper is everywhere… and for a hot second, you look around and think, ‘Is that it? Where’s the rest?’

Now fast-forward to life as a middle schooler — or even teen girl life — and sometimes it feels like that. You finish a big project, get a great grade, have a sleepover with your friends… and then pause: ‘Is there more? Like, is this all there is?’ Girl, I feel you. That is a real question, and it’s actually a very human one.

Here’s what the Bible says about this “is there more?” feeling:

1. Life is about relationship with God, not just stuff or experiences — John 10:10: ‘I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.’ Jesus promises more than fleeting happiness or empty accomplishments. The “more” we’re chasing isn’t a new gadget or social media likes — it’s life rooted in Him.

   
   

2. We were made for eternity — Ecclesiastes 3:11: ‘He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart.’ That “is there more?” feeling? That’s actually God planting eternity in you. He’s showing you there’s more than what you see right now, and it points to Him.

   
   

3. Contentment comes from trusting God’s plan — Philippians 4:19: ‘And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.’ Life isn’t just random events or presents you open. God is the giver of “more,” and it comes as He unfolds it — sometimes slow, sometimes in ways we never expected.

   
   

4. Hope for the future is real — Jeremiah 29:11: ‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’ Even when the birthday present moment feels flat, God is orchestrating the big picture — the ultimate “more” — that will make sense in His timing.

   
   

So, here’s the vibe, girl: life is bigger than just what you can unwrap today. God has put eternity in your heart to remind you that the “more” you’re craving isn’t just a feeling or a thing — it’s a relationship with Him, it’s living out your story, and it’s walking with Jesus day by day, discovering new layers of joy, purpose, and hope.

Pause for a sec: isn’t that kind of exciting? The best presents haven’t even been opened yet — and He’s the ultimate Giver of good gifts.

QUESTION 3 — How do I handle a friend who keeps talking to me even though we agreed not to interact because that’s healthiest for me — and it almost feels like she’s trying to throw me under the bus?

Aria, first — girl, huge shout-out to you for sharing this! And I can’t wait for everyone to see your piece in the February Literally Magazine. You’re speaking truth, and it’s gonna help so many other girls.

Your question: ‘How do I handle a friend who keeps talking to me even though we agreed not to interact because that’s healthiest for me — and it almost feels like she’s trying to throw me under the bus?’

Yikes. That is tough. Middle school friendship drama at its finest, am I right? But here’s the thing — God actually gives us wisdom for navigating friendships like this.

Step 1: Pray first

James 1:5: ‘If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault.’Before you talk to her or even roll your eyes, take a minute (or five) to pray. Ask God: “Give me patience, clarity, and boldness.” Trust me, prayer sets your heart straight before you speak.

Step 2: Speak your truth calmly

Matthew 18:15: ‘If your brother or sister sins, go and show them their fault, just between the two of you.’This is your permission to set the boundary — not with anger, but with honesty. Something like:“Hey, I need some space to focus on what’s healthy for me. I really need you to respect that.”Practical tip: keep it short, clear, and firm. No over-explaining — boundaries don’t need to be debated.

Step 3: Protect your heart

Proverbs 4:23: ‘Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.’Even if she ignores the boundary or tries to stir drama, your heart is your responsibility. Take breaks, avoid gossip, and stick to what you know is right. You’re not being mean; you’re being faithful to yourself and God.

Step 4: Redirect and reinforce

Sometimes people test boundaries repeatedly. If she approaches you anyway:

• Smile politely but walk away

• Engage with other friends

• Focus on activities that make you feel centered

  
  

  Galatians 6:9: ‘Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.’

  
  

  Even when it’s awkward or uncomfortable, doing the right thing matters — God sees it and will honor it.

Step 5: Pray for her heart too

It’s easy to get frustrated and feel alone in this. But God calls us to love even the ones who are hard to love. Pray for her: that she would respect you, and that her heart would be softened. James 5:16: ‘Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.’It’s not just about peace for you — it’s about grace for her too.

Bonus practical tips for middle school life

• Text reminders: If she keeps coming up, a short text can help reinforce the boundary.

• Safe allies: Talk to a teacher, mentor, or mom if it escalates — Scripture never says you have to go it alone.

• Journal it: Writing your feelings down is like unloading your brain to God before you deal with the drama in real life.

Bottom line, Aria: you’re showing maturity and courage by setting boundaries. Middle school is messy, yes, but following God’s wisdom and protecting your heart is the ultimate flex. You can do this, and you’re not alone — God’s walking with you every step.

QUESTION 4 — I feel like I’m the only one without THEIR person. I always feel like the 5th wheel. Everyone has their people, and there I am. And I just feel lonely… and I don’t know what to do about it.

Eden, girl… I see you. This one hurts, and it deserves to be unpacked fully. You said: ‘I feel like I’m the only one without THEIR person. I always feel like the 5th wheel. Everyone has their people, and there I am. And I just feel lonely… and I don’t know what to do about it.

Sis, middle school and teen years are brutal for friendship FOMO. Watching your friends pair off while you feel invisible? That’s painful, and it’s okay to admit it.

Here’s the truth — God sees your heart, and He’s right there in your lonely moments. Let’s unpack this with some Scripture and practical tips.

1. God is close to the lonely

Psalm 34:18: ‘The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.’Feeling like the 5th wheel is literally crushing sometimes, right? But God isn’t far away. He’s literally sitting there with you in the lunchroom, in the car ride home, in your room at night — noticing, loving, and holding your heart.

2. Your worth is NOT in friendships or social cliques

Ephesians 2:10: ‘For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.’Girl, you were designed with purpose, and your value isn’t measured by who has a “person” or who’s in the inner circle. You matter first to God, and that’s the ultimate source of security.

3. Loneliness can be a chance to grow

John 16:33: Jesus said, ‘In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.’Lonely moments are opportunities to learn patience, empathy, and self-discovery. Think of it like training for a superpower: learning to be okay with God first, instead of relying on people to fill the empty spaces.

4. Practical steps for the lonely 5th wheel

• Lean into God: Daily prayers, journaling your feelings, or reading a Psalm can be like a hug for your soul.

• Connect intentionally: Find a friend who might be quieter or overlooked, like you. Invite them to sit with you, chat, or walk together — sometimes other “5th wheels” need each other.

• Start a small hobby or group: Art, sports, Bible study, or a fun project at school can create new circles of people who appreciate you.

• Celebrate small wins: Even if your friends pair off, celebrate the moments where you shine alone. Small wins matter, girl.

5. God is preparing your “people”

Ecclesiastes 4:9–10: ‘Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.’Even if you feel like the 5th wheel now, God is orchestrating the friendships and relationships that will lift you up — He’s never late, and He’s never wrong.

So, Eden, let’s be real: being the 5th wheel sucks sometimes. But your loneliness doesn’t define you. Your worth doesn’t depend on anyone noticing you. Your value is built into you by God Himself.

Lean into Him. Journal. Pray. Look for ways to bless others (yes, even small things count!). And remember: the ‘more’ of life — the friends, the people who get you, the moments that matter — God is saving that just for you. You are never truly alone, even when it feels like it, because He is always holding your heart.

Girl, your story isn’t over, and the best gifts haven’t even been unwrapped yet. Trust Him. Alright squad…let’s pause right here for a sec and just breathe. I know today’s episode dove into some heavy stuff — feelings you’re embarrassed about, fears that keep you up at night, friendships that hurt, and that lonely 5th-wheel feeling we all secretly know too well.

Here’s the truth I want you to hold on to: none of these moments, thoughts, or fears decide your story. None of them can separate you from God’s love. Not a single one. Romans 8:38–39 says it best: ‘For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.’ Pause. Let that sink in. Nothing — absolutely nothing — can separate you from Him.

So, what does that mean for your messy, complicated, sometimes lonely life? It means:

• God is not shocked by your feelings. He sees the heart, and He’s chasing you, not your mistakes.

  
  

• Grace isn’t a concept — it’s a real, living thing that covers you, even in the stuff you’re scared to admit. 1 John 1:9 reminds us that when we confess, He forgives. He cleanses. Girl, that’s amazing.

  
  

• Loneliness isn’t forever. He’s placing the right friends, mentors, and people in your life at the right time. Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 reminds us that the people we need are coming — He’s just setting it all up.

  
  

So here’s your takeaway, my loves: your questions, your messy feelings, your fear, your heart — bring it all to Jesus. Don’t shrink from it. Don’t hide it. Let Him meet you right there. You are loved more than you can imagine. You are seen. You are enough. And God’s grace is big enough to cover it all.

Before we close, here’s a challenge for you: tonight, grab a journal, a notebook, or even your phone, and write down one messy question or feeling you’ve been too scared to say out loud. Then, pray over it. Say to God, ‘Here it is. I’m bringing it to You. Help me walk through it with You.’ That’s how faith grows, girl — in the messy, real, sometimes awkward places.

Alright, my loves, that’s a wrap for the VERY FIRST bonus episode of Season 3. You did it. You showed up. You sat in the truth, in the mess, and in God’s love. And guess what? He’s right there, walking with you through every step.

So go sip your tea, hug your blanket, and remember: your heart is safe, your questions are welcome, and your story is still being written. God’s not done. And neither are you.

Catch you in the next episode, sis — same vibe, same heart, same grace. Love you, girl.