The Ultimate Q+A Dump: When Pride Pops, Anger Sparks, and “Life”-ing Feels Too Much

Okay… y’all have been blowing up the inbox lately — like, my DMs, the podcast email, even the little “Ask a Question” box on the site — just full of your thoughts, prayers, and questions. And honestly, I love it. I love that you want to talk about real life stuff through the lens of God’s Word.

So today’s episode is totally dedicated to you. We’re doing a big Q&A catch-up because I’ve gotten sooo many amazing questions lately that I could not wait any longer to record this one.

We’re talking about pride, anger, friendships and beliefs, and even a handful of super relatable questions from a New York girl named Amelia, who sent me like…the cutest, longest email ever.

So grab your journal, your favorite hoodie, maybe a matcha or hot chocolate, and let’s get into it.

First up — Clare’s Question on Pride

Clare wrote something that I think a lot of us can secretly relate to. She said she doesn’t really struggle with physical appearance or social media stuff — but more with how she’s seen at school. She’s known as “the smart girl,” and she worries about messing up her image or making dumb choices that would ruin it. She said she tends to talk about herself a lot and wants to stop making things all about her.

Clare — first of all, thank you for being so honest. Pride isn’t always loud or obvious — sometimes it’s subtle, like when we just think about ourselves too much or care too deeply about how others see us.

Here’s what the Bible says: “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” — Philippians 2:3

That verse doesn’t say you can’t be proud of who you are — it just reminds us to shift our focus. Pride says, “Look at me.” Humility says, “Look at God.”

Here’s the deeper thing, Clare — I know your heart is intuitive, so let’s go a little beyond the surface. Pride often masks a deeper fear: fear of being invisible, misunderstood, or not enough.

You care about your image because you care about being seen, but here’s the truth: God sees everything. Not just the “good” parts, not just the achievements, not just the smart answers or the grades. He sees the messy, quiet, anxious parts too, and He loves them.

Here’s a little trick I use: whenever I catch myself thinking, “How do I sound?” or “What do people think of me?” — I pause and ask, “How can I make this about serving someone else?” Jesus was literally the most important person to ever live — yet He washed His disciples’ feet. Like… the dusty, dirty feet of the people following Him. (John 13:1–17).

If He could do that, we can absolutely shift our focus too.

So Clare, keep using your gifts and intelligence — those are from God! Just remember they’re for Him too.

And while we’re talking about emotions and internal pressures, let’s pivot to a feeling that can be fiery, consuming, and sometimes confusing: anger.

Next up — Audrey’s Question About Anger

Audrey wrote: “When you have so much anger inside you, what do you do?”

Audrey — girl, thank you for being so real here. First, let’s validate that anger is real and God-given. Every feeling — anger, joy, sadness, excitement — is breathed out by God Himself. They’re part of being human. Psalm 139 reminds us that God knitted us together, emotions and all, and they’re part of His good creation.

Ephesians 4:26 says:📖 “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.”

Notice it doesn’t say, “Don’t feel anger.” Anger itself isn’t a sin. It’s what you do with it that matters. That’s a key distinction.

So yes, validate yourself first: “God, I feel this. I acknowledge it. I see it.” Then, let Scripture and the Spirit guide you. Here’s what that looks like in practice:

1️⃣ Bring it to God honestly — Psalm 62:8 says, “Pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us.” Your anger doesn’t scare Him, and He can handle your full, unfiltered feelings.

2️⃣ Look for the root — anger is often a surface emotion. Underneath might be hurt, fear, or feeling unseen. Proverbs 14:29 says, “Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding.” Let God show you what’s really going on.

3️⃣ Feel it, but don’t let it be your first line of defense — here’s the teen hack: your feelings are like a thermometer, not the thermostat. They tell you what’s happening inside, but they don’t set the rules. God’s Word and His Spirit are the true guides for action.

4️⃣ Forgiveness & peace — Matthew 6:14 reminds us, “If you forgive others, your Father will forgive you.” And Psalm 34:14 says, “Seek peace and pursue it.” This isn’t about ignoring your feelings; it’s about channeling them in ways that honor God and protect

your heart.

Audrey, your anger is valid, and it’s a sign that God is shaping you, protecting you, and helping you care about justice, fairness, and truth. But let Him be the guide — your feelings are valuable, but they’re not the ultimate authority.

Now that we’ve explored the internal world — pride and anger — let’s move outward to relationships and standing firm in your faith.

Eden’s Question About Friends and Beliefs

Eden wrote: “My friends don’t like Charlie Kirk. I’m conservative and feel alone because my friends believe differently than I do.”

Eden — I love how brave you are for even bringing this up. Standing out because of your beliefs can be so hard, especially when you feel like the odd one out.

Romans 12:2 tells us: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

That means it’s okay to think differently — you don’t have to blend in to belong. But here’s the key: Jesus didn’t just stand firm in truth — He loved people deeply. John 13:34 says, “Love one another as I have loved you.”

Let’s go a little deeper here. Politics, social issues, and beliefs can be a minefield, especially when friendships collide with differences. Feeling “alone” in these moments is normal — but God speaks directly into that space.

He calls us to hold truth and love simultaneously. Philippians 4:5 says, “Let your gentleness be evident to all.” You can hold your convictions with confidence while still modeling patience, listening, and kindness.

This is where God teaches us empathy and courage: you don’t have to compromise your values to maintain friendship, but you can show respect, curiosity, and grace — even if others disagree. This balance is tough, but it’s a holy space where God grows your heart and sharpens your discernment.

So here’s your challenge, Eden: Stand firm and love well. Hold your values, but hold your friends’ hearts gently too. God sees the tension you’re walking through, and He’ll guide you in both integrity and love.

Speaking of walking through tension and questions, we’ve got Amelia from New York — our question queen — who asked a whole bouquet of them. Let’s slow down and really savor these.

Amelia’s Questions — The Full Tea

Girl, I don’t even know where to start — you sent in SO many thoughtful, fun questions, and I loved every one of them. Let’s go through them conversationally, not bullet-pointed, so it feels like we’re sitting together on your bedroom floor.

Let’s chat through your questions — like, real heart-to-heart style.

First, you asked about Bible study — starting can feel intimidating, I know. But you don’t have to read an entire chapter or understand every verse right away. Start small — even five to ten minutes a day. I love the Read → Reflect → Write → Pray method.

Read a passage, reflect on what God might be showing you, write a few sentences, and pray. Psalm 119:105 says, “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” That light walks with you, even if you’re just taking baby steps.

Then you asked about toxic friend vibes — girl, been there. You can love someone and still protect your heart. Proverbs 13:20 says, “Walk with the wise and become wise.” That means you get to decide who you spend your energy on. Saying no to drama doesn’t make you mean — it makes you wise. You don’t have to stay in unhealthy friendships to prove you’re nice; kindness and boundaries can coexist beautifully.

Oh — the crushes and situationships question! Totally normal, totally relatable. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Guarding your heart doesn’t mean avoiding people — it means making sure your relationships honor God first. So if you like someone, start with friendship.

Pray, “Lord, help me honor You in this,” and let that guide your steps. Trust me, prayer can help you navigate the messy middle without regret.

Then there’s friend flirting drama. Ugh, the middle school/teen chaos! Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath.” Honestly, a calm, kind response will do more than any heated clapback ever could. You don’t have to compete for attention or popularity when you already know your identity is in Christ. Confidence + grace = unbeatable combo.

And your dance dilemma — this one made me smile because I remember those exact feelings. Luke 14:28 says, “Count the cost.” Pray about it, talk to your mom, jot down the pros and cons.

God cares about these “small” decisions, too, because He cares about your heart and how you spend your time and energy. It’s not just about the team — it’s about what this choice does for your growth and faith.

Finally, your bedroom and time management question — girl, you’re not alone! Romans 12:11 says, “Never be lacking in zeal.” Start small: make your bed, clean for ten minutes, set a timer for a task. Consistency beats perfection. Little steps create big habits, and God honors your diligence in the little things.

Amelia, every question you sent shows such heart, curiosity, and faith in action. Keep chasing Jesus, keep asking, keep learning. Your questions are a gift — not just to you, but to anyone watching, listening, or reading along.

Whew! That was a lot, but so good. Let’s wrap this up with some heart talk for all of you.

Okay girls — today we’ve covered a lot. We’ve talked about pride, anger, standing firm in beliefs, and navigating friendships and faith.

And through it all, here’s what I hope you remember:

• You don’t have to have it all together to be loved by God.

• He’s not waiting for you to “figure it out.”

• He’s walking with you — right now — through it.

  
  

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Huge love to Clare, Audrey, Eden, and Amelia — you brought the questions, and we got real. I’m so proud of you for thinking, questioning, and chasing truth!

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